People are shocked to know the story of caste bias shared by Dalit woman. However, this truth of society is not new, such biases have been going on for a long time.
New Delhi. Caste discrimination in India is not limited to social or economic circles — it still affects the foundation of relationships today. Recently, a Dalit woman shared her dating experience on the social media platform Reddit, which created a stir on the Internet. She told how Indian men looked at her not as an equal and respectable partner, but as a ‘sexual object’.
This woman wrote that initially men would praise her beauty and intelligence, but as soon as they came to know about her caste, their behavior changed completely. Most of the men broke off the relationship citing ‘family pressure’.
She said, “They would say, ‘You have no shortcomings, but our families will not accept it.’ Or else: ‘You deserve someone who doesn’t have to struggle so much.’”
The woman also said that she had to listen to derogatory comments many times like – “You don’t look like a Dalit”. She wrote that she was used only as a ‘sexual experiment’, never seen as a life partner.
The woman further said,
“Dalit women are ‘more wild’, ‘better in bed’ – I was repeatedly fetishised in this way. I am a thrill for them, but not a permanent relationship. I feel like I am a ‘hidden phase’ that they go through but never mention.”
Not only in personal relationships, but also in her career, the thinking of men was discriminatory. The woman wrote that her achievements were described as a result of reservation, not her hard work.
She said, “I studied, built a career, took care of myself — but that was never enough.”
After this emotional and bitter experience, the woman has now given up dating.
She says, “I haven’t stopped believing in love, but I have stopped allowing myself to go through this painful cycle again and again. I am not someone’s experiment, thrill or hidden phase. We are not ‘disposable’. We are not someone’s hidden stories of their lives.”
She concluded by appealing to all women to understand themselves, respect themselves and not compromise their dignity.
Rajan Chaudhary
Courtesy : Hindi News