I had to leave my home with just a bicycle: Vidya Kamble
First transgender from Maharashtra to join Lok Adalat panel , Vidya Kamble gets emotional as Supreme Court delivers the historic verdict, decriminalising gay sex. Walking down the memory lane, she says, “I come from an economically poor background and ever since I was a teenager, I wanted to do all the things that girls love. Right from painting my nails to shaping my eyebrows and applying henna, I did it all. My parents and siblings would tease me and it would anger me a lot, but slowly I realized that mine was a woman’s soul trapped in a male body. After 12th, the economic condition of our family deteriorated so much that I had to step out to earn and help run the kitchen.
I started working as a helper to an electrician but was embarrassed when people passed lewd comments on me. Since we couldn’t afford a TV, I would go and watch some popular serials at a neighbour’s home. Once theirs on showed some porn CDs to me when I was alone and even tried to molest me.
When I rejected his overtures, he accused me of being a homosexual. Then he went and told a lot of other people in the neighbourhood about my sexuality, soon it reached my father’s ears. Those days my father used to consume alcohol and would beat my mother, leading to a lot of fights. Once after such a fight, I even tried to commit suicide. Finally, to maintain peace in my family, I left home on a bicycle.
I found support from transgender community and went to meet iconic transgender leader Laxmi Narayan Tripathi in Mumbai.
After speaking to her, I felt stronger and came back to Nagpur. Later, I met transgender guru Uttam Baba and we were together for 10 years. On the basis of the community work done by me, I was appointed on the Lok Adalat panel in Nagpur recently.
When I look back at my journey, I do realise that I have come a long way. But it pains me that till date my father doesn’t speak to me, although my mother definitely has a soft corner for me.
We transgenders are already recognised as the third sex, and now with 377 gone, I want members of my community to get higher education. I also want to adopt a child and find a suitable partner. Honestly, I just want to enjoy some simple joys of life that were denied to me till now.
Source : TOI, Sept 15, 2018